Archives: Mind And Body

Trying to be liked by everyone is not only unrealistic but can also lead to negative consequences for both individuals and groups. When people with vastly different values are forced into a group, it can disrupt harmony and even damage the system as a whole. This phenomenon is often likened to the saying, “Bad money drives out good.”

Is It Really Impossible to Be Liked by Everyone?

Every individual has unique values, experiences, and perspectives. Because of this diversity, it’s simply not realistic to expect everyone to like you. In psychology, excessive “approval-seeking behavior” is often linked to losing one’s sense of self, which can lead to stress, anxiety, and burnout.

Moreover, relationships are influenced by compatibility. No matter how hard you try, there will always be people whose values or personalities clash with yours. This isn’t a failure—it’s a natural part of human interaction.

Why Being Liked by Everyone Is Not a Good Thing

At first glance, the desire to be liked by everyone may seem like a positive goal. However, it can have unintended negative effects. One reason is the phenomenon described by the saying, “Bad money drives out good.” While originally an economic principle, this idea can also apply to human relationships.

When people with conflicting or incompatible values are forced into a group, it can disrupt the group’s harmony and dilute its core purpose. For example, in teams or communities, even one person’s toxic behavior or negativity can cause dysfunction and derail the group’s progress.

Additionally, striving to be universally liked often requires sacrificing your own values and identity to conform to others’ expectations. This self-sacrifice can lead to feelings of inauthenticity and resentment over time. Ironically, this may damage your most meaningful relationships.

Focus on Building Relationships With Like-Minded People

Instead of trying to please everyone, it’s far more fulfilling to nurture relationships with people who share your values and outlook on life. Psychologist Abraham Maslow’s theory of self-actualization emphasizes that true happiness comes from living authentically. By prioritizing connections with those who align with your beliefs and principles, you can create deeper and more meaningful bonds.

While embracing diversity is important, it doesn’t mean you have to force yourself into relationships that feel unnatural or draining. Setting healthy boundaries is key to maintaining your well-being while respecting others’ differences.

Conclusion: You Don’t Need Everyone’s Approval

You don’t need to be liked by everyone—nor should you aim for it. Instead, focus on respecting your own values and fostering connections with those who truly resonate with you.

It’s inevitable that some people will dislike or criticize you at times. But this is often a sign that you’re living authentically and staying true to yourself. In the end, being deeply connected with a few meaningful people is far more rewarding than being superficially liked by everyone.

“Be someone who is useful to others.”

Most of us have heard that phrase growing up. At school, at home, in society—being “useful” gets equated with being valuable. But do we really have to be useful to someone?

Sometimes, just pausing to think about it, the pressure feels suffocating.

What Does “Being Useful” Even Mean?

The phrase “being useful” carries a sense of duty or expectation.

Are you suppressing your own feelings just to meet someone else’s expectations?

But here’s the thing: simply by existing, you’re already affecting people. Even if you don’t do anything special, your presence alone can be a support for someone.

Cherish What You Love

Sometimes, the urge to “be useful” makes us ignore our own likes and joys.

But people who are absorbed in what they love often end up inspiring or uplifting those around them without even trying.

You don’t have to force yourself to be useful. Fulfilling yourself can, in the end, be the very thing that helps someone else.

The Freedom to “Not Be Useful”

The freedom to think, “I don’t have to be useful to anyone,” is incredibly important.
It frees you from duty and pressure, letting you live as your true self.

And in that natural state, people who are drawn to you, or even saved by your existence, will appear.

In Conclusion

Did we ever really need to be useful to someone?

Everyone’s answer will be different. But you don’t have to force yourself to be useful.

Living as your authentic self is, in the end, what supports others the most.

Relax your shoulders, and live at your own pace.

1. Energy or Interest Shifting

If activities or relationships that once brought you joy suddenly feel boring, it may be a sign that your energy (or soul/consciousness) is shifting toward something new.
From a spiritual perspective, life consists of cycles of learning and growth. When one stage ends, you may naturally feel less interested as you prepare for the next phase.

2. Current Situation No Longer Fits

Your inner self may have changed, and your current environment, relationships, or routines may no longer suit you.
This feeling can be a signal that you’re ready to move toward a path that’s more aligned with your true self.

3. Intuition or Message from the Soul

Feeling “bored” could be your intuition or soul sending you a message that it’s time to change your situation.
In the spiritual world, even negative emotions are seen as important signs to protect and guide you.

4. Energy Blockage or Fatigue

Sometimes, feeling bored is a sign of energy blockages or emotional/physical fatigue.
In this case, rest, relaxation, and energy cleansing (such as meditation or spending time in nature) can help.

What to Do: Advice

• Spend Time with Yourself
  Try meditating in a quiet place or writing in a journal to clarify your feelings.
• Try Something New
  Challenge yourself with a new hobby or activity you’ve never tried before.
• Cleanse Your Energy
  Take a salt bath, use aromatherapy, or spend time in nature to reset your mind and body.
• Talk to Someone You Trust
  Sharing your feelings with a friend or counselor can help lighten your mood.

Summary

Feeling suddenly bored is often a sign of spiritual growth or preparation for a new stage in life.
Take your time, honor your feelings, and gently prepare yourself for the next step.

Hello! Today, I’d like to reflect on the theme: “Everything happening now is perfect.”

What Does “Perfect” Really Mean?

When we hear the word “perfect,” we often imagine a situation where everything goes exactly as planned. But in reality, life rarely unfolds according to our expectations. Instead, it’s full of surprises, setbacks, and unexpected turns.

Yet, if we choose to believe that “everything happening now is perfect,” our perspective can shift dramatically.

Everything Has Meaning

Have you ever heard of the “Law of Attraction” or the phrase “Your wishes will come true”? Many people are inspired by ideas like “If you set your intention, it will happen,” “If you choose, reality will follow,” or “If you decide, things will move.”

But in reality, it’s not as simple as “just choose anything you want.”
Each of us has things we can choose and things we can’t.

Are Our True Desires Already Decided?

What we love, what we desire, what we want to do- These aren’t things we decide with our heads, but rather, they naturally well up from deep within our hearts.

For example, you can’t force yourself to love a food you dislike, right?
In the same way, your true likes and wishes are already decided within you from the start.

Can You Really Have Anything You Wish For?

We’d like to believe, “If I set any goal, it will come true,” or “If I choose any dream, I can achieve it.” But in reality, you can only choose and attract what you already have the ‘seed’ for inside you.

So, how can you discover the wishes that will truly come true for you and attract them into reality?

I’ll share concrete steps for discovering your true desires and changing your reality.